“As parents who make every effort we can to raise our children in loving security, we do not need to feel more guilt than we already do. We need less guilt and more awareness of how the quality of the parent-child relationship can be used to promote our children’s emotional and cognitive development.”

“The salient stressors in the lives of most human beings today — at least in the industrialized world — are emotional. Just like laboratory animals unable to escape, people find themselves trapped in lifestyles and emotional patterns inimical to their health. The higher the level of economic development, it seems, the more anaesthetized we have become to our emotional realities. We no longer sense what is happening in our bodies and cannot therefore act in self-preserving ways. The physiology of stress eats away at our bodies not because it has outlived its usefulness but because we may no longer have the competence to recognize its signals.”

Gabor Maté libro When the Body Says No

Fuente: When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress

“The purpose of love is the creation of a safe space, in which we can be ourselves, with independence and freedom. It requires motivation and dedication to comply and commit.”

EmilyBs

“Thanks to the decency of older people we know the concept of love, passion and loyalty.”

EmilyBs

““A therapist once said to me, “If you face the choice between feeling guilt and resentment, choose the guilt every time.” It is wisdom I have passed on to many others since. If a refusal saddles you with guilt, while consent leaves resentment in its wake, opt for the guilt. Resentment is soul suicide. Negative thinking allows us to gaze unflinchingly on our own behalf at what does not work.

We have seen in study after study that compulsive positive thinkers are more likely to develop disease and less likely to survive. Genuine positive thinking — or, more deeply, positive being — empowers us to know that we have nothing to fear from truth. “Health is not just a matter of thinking happy thoughts,” writes the molecular researcher Candace Pert. “Sometimes the biggest impetus to healing can come from jump-starting the immune system with a burst of long-suppressed anger.” Anger, or the healthy experience of it, is one of the seven A’s of healing. Each of the seven A’s addresses one of the embedded visceral beliefs that predispose to illness and undermine healing.””

Gabor Maté libro When the Body Says No

Fuente: When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress

“Death is the voice of conscience, telling us not to waste time, that we are born alone and we die alone.”

EmilyBs

“Perhaps sentimental love can be perfected with time, but the love of children is every day more perfect and more powerful of all.”

EmilyBs

“Settling for the view that illnesses, mental or physical, are primarily genetic allows us to avoid disturbing questions about the nature of the society in which we live. If “science” enables us to ignore poverty or man-made toxins or a frenetic and stressful social culture as contributors to disease, we can look only to simple answers: pharmacological and biological.”

Gabor Maté libro When the Body Says No

Fuente: When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress