Frases de Alain de Botton

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“Proust dijo en cierta ocasión que a las mujeres de belleza clásica había que dejarlas para los hombres sin imaginación, y”

“Uno de los principales inconvenientes del amor, al menos durante un tiempo, es que corre el riesgo de hacernos felices.”

“enojo poco después de recibir una ofensa es la cosa más generosa que uno puede hacer, pues le ahorra al ofensor el florecimiento de la culpa y la necesidad de hacer bajar al ofendido de su torre almenada. Como”

“El clímax lógico del amor inmaduro [por ser absoluto] se alcanza en la muerte, real o simbólica, el clímax lógico del amor maduro se alcanza en el matrimonio y la tentativa de evitar la muerte a través de la rutina [los suplementos dominicales, las prensas para pantalones, los electrodomésticos manejados por control remoto]. Pues el amor inmaduro no acepta ningún compromiso, y en cuanto dejamos de aceptar compromisos, ponemos rumbo hacia la muerte. Para alguien que ha conocido las cimas de la pasión inmadura, aceptar el matrimonio es un precio insostenible: más le valdría poner fin a la farsa despeñándose en coche desde un acantilado.”

“Preferible por muchos conceptos, la filosofía del amor maduro se caracteriza por una conciencia activa del bien y del mal dentro de cada persona: la templanza la preside, se resiste a la idealización, está libre de celos, masoquismo y obsesiones, es una forma de amistad que incluye una dimensión sexual, es agradable, pacífica y correspondida [y tal vez explique por qué la mayoría de quienes han conocido el deseo denegarían a su manifestación indolora el calificativo de amor]. Por”

“… love is a skill, not just an enthusiasm.”

“There is a longing for a return to a time without the need for choices, free of the regret at the inevitable loss that all choice (however wonderful) has entailed.”

“Being content is perhaps no less easy than playing the violin well: and requires no less practice.”

“The inability to live in the present lies in the fear of leaving the sheltered position of anticipation or memory, and so of admitting that this is the only life that one is ever likely (heavenly intervention aside) to live.”

“Because the rhythm of conversation makes no allowance for dead periods, because the presence of others calls for continuous responses, we are left to regret the inanity of what we say, and the missed opportunity of what we do not.”

“Travel agents would be wiser to ask us what we hope to change about our lives rather than simply where we wish to go.”

“Good sex isn’t just fun, it keeps us sane and happy. Having sex with someone makes us feel wanted, alive and potent”

“The longing for destiny is nowhere stronger than in our romantic life.”

“We wanted to test each other's capacity for survival: only if we had tried in vain to destroy one another would we know we were safe.”

“We don't need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationships; all we need to have mastered is the occasional capacity to acknowledge with good grace that we may, in one or two areas, be somewhat insane.”

“A danger of travel is that we see things at the wrong time, before we have had a chance to build up the necessary receptivity and when new information is therefore as useless and fugitive as necklace beads without a connecting chain.”

“Dreams reveal we never quite get 'over' anything: it's all still in there somewhere.”

“A 'good job' can be both practically attractive while still not good enough to devote your entire life to.”

“He was marked out by his relentless ability to find fault with others' mediocrity--suggesting that a certain type of intelligence may be at heart nothing more or less than a superior capacity for dissatisfaction.”

“Maturity: knowing where you're crazy, trying to warn others of the fact and striving to keep yourself under control.”

“The mind does most of its best thinking when we aren't there. The answers are there in the morning.”

“Endeavoring to purchase something we think beautiful may in fact be the most unimaginative way of dealing with the longing it excites in us, just as trying to sleep with someone may be the bluntest response to a feeling of love.”

“We are sensitized by the books we read. And the more books we read, and the deeper their lessons sink into us, the more pairs of glasses we have. And those glasses enable us to see things we would have otherwise missed.”

“As Proust once said, classically beautiful women should be left to men without imagination.”

“We are continuously challenged to discover new works of culture—and, in the process, we don’t allow any one of them to assume a weight in our minds.”

“Writing a book has about it some of the anxiety of telling a joke and having to wait several years to know whether or not it was funny.”

“It's hard loving those who don't much like themselves: "If you're so great, why would you think I'm so great.”

“at the heart of every frustration lies a basic structure: the collision of a wish with an unyielding reality.”

“If it is true that love is the pursuit in another of qualities we lack in ourselves, then in our love of someone from another culture, one ambition may be to weld ourselves more closely to values missing from our own culture.”

“We used to build temples, and museums are about as close as secular society dares to go in facing up to the idea that a good building can change your life (and a bad one ruin it).”

“If one felt successful, there'd be so little incentive to be successful.”

“Instead of bringing back 1600 plants, we might return from our journeys with a collection of small unfêted but life-enhancing thoughts.”

“You’re not upset.’ ‘I am.’ ‘You deserve to be.”

“In their different ways, art and philosophy help us, in Schopenhauer's words, to turn pain into knowledge.”